Thursday, December 22, 2011
Pre-Prom
Prom season has rolled around again!!! Who can really believe it? Time to get a idea of what kind of dress you want and ofcoarse im here to help!!!!
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Thursday, December 15, 2011
The "it's not you, it's me" Line
I'm sure we've all heard it before... the classic break up line "It's not you, It's me." But what does it's not you it's me really mean? What's the real meaning behind that?
It's saying that the reason they're breaking up with you isn't because of anything you've done but because they have issues and feel that they can'tbe in a relationship with you anymore because of something that they've done. So don't take the break up personally. But honestly how many times has this line been said just to spare the feelings of the one your breaking up with? Too many times... It's the idea that maybe the break up will be easier if you blame it on yourself when in reality your breaking up with the other person because of whatever issues there are or were. And to the other person it's more of a selfish, rude and inconsiderate action. How can someone have the audacity to place the blame on themself and lie to your face rather than just telling you whatever the issue is and working out the problem. This line only proves how there's a lack of communication. Considering if the problem really was them, then there truthfully is a lack of communication because your significant other neglected to tell you about some of the problems they're going through, and rather than the two of ya'll working out the issues and problems they let it go unresolved and now because of that there's a potential break up.
"It's not you, It's me" well... If it's you, you might wanna be prepared with a good and legit reason as of to whats WRONG with you and why is it that whatever's wrong with you makes you feel the need to break it off. I've am a product of a unhappy relationship with two people that have had issues since the jump. No communication, and constant argueing and fighting. One thing i've learned is that you have to work it out and you have to talk about it, and how to fix it. I've also learned that if your not happy then you probably should'nt be in the relationship anyway. Because there's no point in being in a relationship when your not happy, because your misery will only make your significant other miserable to. So don't drag the both of you down. If' it's not meant to be let it go. Which is not saying give up. At least try to make it work before you throw in the towel. Relationships are meant to be endured and get stronger in time. Not something for the weak and mild hearted.
On another note: Relationships shouldn't be entered from the get go if your not absolutely certain that you can handle it. If you can't handle it, then dont do it. Don't enter a relationship just because your lonely, or you feel sorry, or any other crazy reason other than you have a strong connection, thats undeniable, and there's no one else you could or would rather be with. Do it for the right reasons...
With all that being said, i just abolished the whole "It's not you, It's me" Line. It's extinct and should be laid to rest in peace.
R.I.P "It's not you, It's me"
It's saying that the reason they're breaking up with you isn't because of anything you've done but because they have issues and feel that they can'tbe in a relationship with you anymore because of something that they've done. So don't take the break up personally. But honestly how many times has this line been said just to spare the feelings of the one your breaking up with? Too many times... It's the idea that maybe the break up will be easier if you blame it on yourself when in reality your breaking up with the other person because of whatever issues there are or were. And to the other person it's more of a selfish, rude and inconsiderate action. How can someone have the audacity to place the blame on themself and lie to your face rather than just telling you whatever the issue is and working out the problem. This line only proves how there's a lack of communication. Considering if the problem really was them, then there truthfully is a lack of communication because your significant other neglected to tell you about some of the problems they're going through, and rather than the two of ya'll working out the issues and problems they let it go unresolved and now because of that there's a potential break up.
"It's not you, It's me" well... If it's you, you might wanna be prepared with a good and legit reason as of to whats WRONG with you and why is it that whatever's wrong with you makes you feel the need to break it off. I've am a product of a unhappy relationship with two people that have had issues since the jump. No communication, and constant argueing and fighting. One thing i've learned is that you have to work it out and you have to talk about it, and how to fix it. I've also learned that if your not happy then you probably should'nt be in the relationship anyway. Because there's no point in being in a relationship when your not happy, because your misery will only make your significant other miserable to. So don't drag the both of you down. If' it's not meant to be let it go. Which is not saying give up. At least try to make it work before you throw in the towel. Relationships are meant to be endured and get stronger in time. Not something for the weak and mild hearted.
On another note: Relationships shouldn't be entered from the get go if your not absolutely certain that you can handle it. If you can't handle it, then dont do it. Don't enter a relationship just because your lonely, or you feel sorry, or any other crazy reason other than you have a strong connection, thats undeniable, and there's no one else you could or would rather be with. Do it for the right reasons...
With all that being said, i just abolished the whole "It's not you, It's me" Line. It's extinct and should be laid to rest in peace.
R.I.P "It's not you, It's me"
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Show Love some R-E-S-P-E-C-T !
Love-
noun
1.
a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2.
a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3.
sexual passion or desire.
4.
a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
As clearly defined above, Love's true meaning is honestly undermined. It's meaning So much more than those few words that describe it... The word Love should only be used in the sincerest terms of endearment. It should be used seriously rather than thrown around the way that it is. Love gets no respect in terms of usage. And nobody ever seems to care neither. You should think before the word "love" even escapes your mouth. Because clearly you could tell someone you love them, but in actuality you just love the idea of them, or their actions. Leading them to believe that you sincerely love them, and then when you mess up, it defeats their belief in love and leads them on to loose faith in it's existance. Which is why so many people dont believe in it. I believe that it exist, but it just exists for those who have honestly found it. I am not one of those people... Although i may have thought i was, i realized i was not. And it's so easy to believe that your in love, and you've found love, and your significant other loves you. In fact it's too easy to fall into that state of oblivion... Clueless, drunk on infatuation, stuck in the honey moon phase. But soon that wears off then your stuck with the reality of the situation... Which isn't what you thought it was. clearly. False love gets us everytime. And thats simply because were all so desperate to feel love, to have it and know that it exist. We want love so bad we fall for anything even close to love. And thats how we end up in said situations. sad isnt it?
Love needs more respect. Love needs to be taken for granted and tested, and tried to know that it's the real deal. Love shouldn't be thrown around and slapping me in the face when it's not real. Show love some respect, and in return it'll respect you... So you know it's real.
Friday, December 2, 2011
For better or worse?
You're crazy. You know you're crazy. You know you have issues, your hard to get along with and for the life of you, you cant seem to figure out why in the HELL anyone would want to be with you, let alone even love you. The very thought that someone out there in the world could possibly even bear to be around you let alone, actually want to is an impossible thought... or in my opinion it's impossible. It's... proposterous!!!! I know one day i'll be a believer but until that day... i'll just keep living my life in disbelief.
You know it's so hard with today's world. With people or rather guys after one thing... It's unbelivably hard to find someone else that will not only respect you, but like you for who you are, treat you right, and not expect anything from you. Girls that do give it up, make it hard for those of us who dont. It seems like virgins are hard to come by these days. I guess were the last of a dying breed... And in my opinion that just makes us all the more valuable. I think we have more respect because of that. and i'm getting off topic but im just saying have some self respect because once you give it up, you loose that value that you once had and then you become ordinary, and un-special.
Now back to my point. It's hard to find somebody. Once you do actually find someone who honestly believes it? All of your friends are even in disbelief. "Are you seriously dating ___?" and all you can do is awkwardly say "yeah?" It's like i know i've been single and i had started giving up hope, but damn, even my friends gave up too? Then it makes you rethink yourself like I am i really that bad? And in the end you go back and forth but it doesn't matter because now you've found someone that can actually tollerate you so... it's an improvement.
Now here's the dilemna. Your in a relationship. it's your first one, and you have no clue what your doing, or what to do. No clue how to actually be in a relationship. And tragically there's no book, format, script, instruction manual, or how to for dummies on how to be in a relationship. You are completely on your own, and you just have to figure it out. And figuring it out isn't easy... Things get hard, and complicated, or even your way or the way you think they should go... and just because it's getting hard you cant give up. It's like: oh he didnt text me first. I think im gonna break up with him. NO! you cant just throw in the towel that easily over petty shit. If anything break up over something major not minor and stupid at that. If your gonna be in a relationship you have to be in it for the long run. Ready to work out any problems you have. And actually work out your problems, such as if he does something that makes you mad, TELL HIM! not your girls. Because complaining to them isn't gonna fix the problem and only proves that there's a communication problem between the two of you. For better or worse? For the good times, and the bad. You gotta stick it out and make it work!
You know it's so hard with today's world. With people or rather guys after one thing... It's unbelivably hard to find someone else that will not only respect you, but like you for who you are, treat you right, and not expect anything from you. Girls that do give it up, make it hard for those of us who dont. It seems like virgins are hard to come by these days. I guess were the last of a dying breed... And in my opinion that just makes us all the more valuable. I think we have more respect because of that. and i'm getting off topic but im just saying have some self respect because once you give it up, you loose that value that you once had and then you become ordinary, and un-special.
Now back to my point. It's hard to find somebody. Once you do actually find someone who honestly believes it? All of your friends are even in disbelief. "Are you seriously dating ___?" and all you can do is awkwardly say "yeah?" It's like i know i've been single and i had started giving up hope, but damn, even my friends gave up too? Then it makes you rethink yourself like I am i really that bad? And in the end you go back and forth but it doesn't matter because now you've found someone that can actually tollerate you so... it's an improvement.
Now here's the dilemna. Your in a relationship. it's your first one, and you have no clue what your doing, or what to do. No clue how to actually be in a relationship. And tragically there's no book, format, script, instruction manual, or how to for dummies on how to be in a relationship. You are completely on your own, and you just have to figure it out. And figuring it out isn't easy... Things get hard, and complicated, or even your way or the way you think they should go... and just because it's getting hard you cant give up. It's like: oh he didnt text me first. I think im gonna break up with him. NO! you cant just throw in the towel that easily over petty shit. If anything break up over something major not minor and stupid at that. If your gonna be in a relationship you have to be in it for the long run. Ready to work out any problems you have. And actually work out your problems, such as if he does something that makes you mad, TELL HIM! not your girls. Because complaining to them isn't gonna fix the problem and only proves that there's a communication problem between the two of you. For better or worse? For the good times, and the bad. You gotta stick it out and make it work!
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