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When you develop feelings for a person, it's some serious shit... Most of the time. Sometimes we develop these crushes that we think we like a person until we start getting to know them and then we suddenly realize how much we don't, and how much it was based off of their physical appearance. For those of you who get past the physical appearance and genuinely like the person for who they are develop these strong feelings for them. Damn near close to love, but that's not the word to describe said situation. Now eventually can it turn into love? Definitely but, i'm not one to use the "L" word sooooo... lets just not go there. But technically love is a "Feeling" so... interpret that however. whatever.
Now that you've developed these strong feelings for this person you want nothing more than to be with them. You don't want to see anyone else with them, and you feel as though you two belong together. So lets say you two start dating, and then things happen, and you're not sure what but then you guys break up. *gasps* After the break up you're depressed and sad. You just don't know what to do with yourself and you find that you can't stop thinking about them, wondering if they think about you just as much, and you try to rid yourself of all those feelings you have, but guess what? Those feelings will NEVER go away. EVER. And that ladies and gentlemen is a FACT. Those feelings may go into hiding somewhere deep within but all it takes is to see them again, or the mention of their name that can easily reawaken all of those feelings and suddenly you're right back where you started. No bueno. But that's how it is. Feelings like that never go away, especially when you're in "Love." This probably sounds like the worst thing in the world... But it's not. There's things like cancer that's 10x worse. So suck it up, and man up. Is it possible to move on? Yes. Indefinitely. You can move on and date multiple guys. You can even completely forget about them. But like i said all it takes is something simple that can bring it all back.
Now if you're one of those people who after a period of time feel nothing at the mention of their name then you obviously didn't really feel that strongly about them, and you weren't in love, no matter how much you may try to convince yourself you were. Just face it. It wasn't meant to be. But somebody who at the mention of their name makes your stomach cringe, then you might have a serious case. Now am i saying run back to them begging and pleading for them to work things out? NO!!!!!!!! Do not do that!!!! I'm just saying that you really felt some type of way back then. That doesn't mean do a U-turn and go back. Just deal with it for what it is. Sometimes we fail to believe that we'll ever find someone else to love us and that that last person (or whoever) was the last option, but i promise you there are plenty more. There will be another, but who knows when that will be.... So there's going to be some lonely nights, and depressed days but you will get through it.
Just know that you're capable of feeling so strongly about a person. Ofcoarse there will always be a soft spot in your heart for that person, but you have to be smart about it... Just So that I clarify the lesson that was to be learned once you have feelings with someone, they don't go away. You just have to deal with it. The end.
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