Gun Control

We all like to think of ourselves as good people. We all think that were decent human beings right? Or at least i'd like to think that everyone considers themselves as a good person, but I know that we don't live in a perfect world, and no one is without their flaws, and that there are some people in the world who are bad people. People who do evil things that are hurtful to not only the victims but to everyone nation wide. If you haven't guessed i'm referring to the Newton school shooting. Innocent children, killed for no reason at all, and even if there were reason no child should have to loose their life, and I cant even imagine a reason that someone would think it was reasonable to kill a child. It was heartbreaking to sit and watch the news and see images from the school of parents crying, mourning the loss of their child. I can't imagine what it would be like to loose a child. Especially when they're so young and had their whole lives ahead of them. I can imagine however, that it was extremely hard to loose them right before the holidays... Those parents had probably purchased gifts for their kids, and now their kids aren't here... That's sad. It really is. And to think that one man did this. One man, for who knows what reason. Whatever the reason was it wasn't right. It was just wrong. I'm honestly one to stay in my lane, and mind my business, but i couldn't keep silent on this one. Imagine if that had've been your little sister, brother, niece, nephew or cousin. Imagine how hurt you'd be. That tragedy could've easily occurred at any given school. Any of us could be going through that. My heart goes out to the families of the students who lives were lost, and even the students who were lucky enough to make it out of there alive. Going through an event like that at a young age can be traumatizing... It can seriously damage them, and haunt them all their lives. My heart and prayers go out to all of them.
Here in America something needs to be done. We have people, and now children dying over senseless violence. People getting shot over Jordans, teens taking guns to parties just incase something "pops off" and innocent people are the ones getting killed. This is stupid. We need stricter gun laws. We cant just issue a gun license to every american because "They have the right to bear arms." Yea, o.k. So lets just give everyone a gun... yeah, there'd be a major decrease in american population, and a major increase in the funeral business. There needs to be background checks and psychiatric examinations given to those in attempt to acquire a gun permit. Also guns should not be sold to anyone without a license. Therefore making fire arms harder to acquire and therefore decreasing gun violence here in america. And those that are caught with a firearm without a license need to have their weapon confiscated and put on a 3 strike policy. Possessing a firearm without a permit would be the equivalent of a misdemeanor. After so many chances you have to suffer the consequence. But of coarse that's just my opinion. But seriously something needs to be done about this. Anyone can easily be killed with a gun... Anyone. Keep that in mind.

Why we wait for love...

At this point my blog might as well be a relationship blog... It seems as though that is what the majority of my post are about anyways... Sometimes i tend to relate these post to things going on in my love life as well as friends of mine or things that just so happen to come up in discussion, so please don't think that it's all me, and i'm just out of control. lol.
Ok, so to the point. Why we wait for love... Why do we wait for love? Out of desperation? Distance? Fear of being alone? Why do we wait for love?
Well... Sometimes we wait for love, because we don't know what else to do... and because of the reasons I just listed. We'll find someone that we really care for, but they're not in the same place as us. We'll be looking for a relationship, and looking for something intellectual, and deep. Searching for a connection, and looking for love, but they're not looking for a relationship. They just want someone to kick it with, looking for company... and sometimes in the end you get hurt. That's why it's important to know what you both want from the beginning. You will easily waste your time on someone who at the end of the day isn't looking for what your looking for. Now here's where the problem comes in... You wait... Thinking that you can change the person. Or better yet you wait thinking that they'll change on their own. Have some kind of magical epiphany and realize that they want the same things you want... Well keep waiting for that miracle because 9 times out of 10 they won't have that epiphany. Sorry. And the sooner you realize that the better off you'll be. You can stop wasting your time on someone who's not benefiting you and giving you what you want and can better use your time to find someone who does. The worst thing you could do is to pass up on someone else who has great potential because your stuck in a situation where your waiting for someone else... That's only hurting yourself. And like I said the sooner you realize that the better.
Then there's the different situations with different circumstances... Such as the long distance... Lets say he doesn't want to be in relationship right now because you two are far apart and don't get to see each other. Thats reasonable because long distance relationships are hard. Especially with no face time what so ever. That just makes it even more hard. But some people can make it work. With the time and the effort, and maturity it's possible.
Another situation could be that he's not ready RIGHT NOW to be in a relationship. Which means that in time he'll one day be ready. But who knows when that day may come? So with that being said, it's o.k. to wait... at max I say a year... But if you have the patience to wait longer, that's on you. But after a year if you two aren't officially dating then there's a problem... Either he has some sort of commitment issues or... something. Either way it's not right. But i say at least a year... That's just taking it slow... Be friends. Chill. Kick it. Really get to know one another on a deep level. Build trust, and friendship first then a relationship will follow. Hopefully... Otherwise, after a year of waiting it's probably just best to keep it moving... Find someone else. You do have a life to live that doesn't require you to wait for love from someone who has no intention of giving it to you...
Just be aware of your situation and circumstances, and look out for yourself... Sometimes we choose to not see the obvious things that are right in front of our faces because were so optimistic that things will fall into place. But if the pieces don't fit they can't fall into place now can they?
So i conclude with a quote. "Love is not about how long I can wait for someone, but about how well I understand why I am waiting." Which in other words, have a GOOD reason for waiting...

After you've done all you can, you just stand

So many times are we faced with a situation where we are being challenged with a situation. Sometimes that situation is a lot harder than we expect it to be. Many times these challenges test us to our limits. They push us to see just how far were willing to go. Just how much were willing to take before we've had enough. Once we reach that limit when we've had enough and we can't take anymore we throw in the towel and give up. Giving up isn't ideal, and no one wants to do it, but sometimes we are defeated and have no other alternative. Just because you've come to a point when you're defeated doesn't mean that it's over. Perhaps there is another way to accomplish the challenge or obstacle you've been presented with. For every obstacle there has to be an alternative route, and if there is no alternative route then you should probably abandon the challenge. But if there is an alternative way to accomplish the goal then all alternatives should be attempted before completely throwing in the towel. Have some faith in yourself and believe that you can accomplish anything. I preach this message today, needing to hear some encouraging words myself. Sometimes we just need to hear some encouraging words. And those are mine for today. Especially to those of you college students with finals this week. Best of luck to everyone.