Why we wait for love...

At this point my blog might as well be a relationship blog... It seems as though that is what the majority of my post are about anyways... Sometimes i tend to relate these post to things going on in my love life as well as friends of mine or things that just so happen to come up in discussion, so please don't think that it's all me, and i'm just out of control. lol.
Ok, so to the point. Why we wait for love... Why do we wait for love? Out of desperation? Distance? Fear of being alone? Why do we wait for love?
Well... Sometimes we wait for love, because we don't know what else to do... and because of the reasons I just listed. We'll find someone that we really care for, but they're not in the same place as us. We'll be looking for a relationship, and looking for something intellectual, and deep. Searching for a connection, and looking for love, but they're not looking for a relationship. They just want someone to kick it with, looking for company... and sometimes in the end you get hurt. That's why it's important to know what you both want from the beginning. You will easily waste your time on someone who at the end of the day isn't looking for what your looking for. Now here's where the problem comes in... You wait... Thinking that you can change the person. Or better yet you wait thinking that they'll change on their own. Have some kind of magical epiphany and realize that they want the same things you want... Well keep waiting for that miracle because 9 times out of 10 they won't have that epiphany. Sorry. And the sooner you realize that the better off you'll be. You can stop wasting your time on someone who's not benefiting you and giving you what you want and can better use your time to find someone who does. The worst thing you could do is to pass up on someone else who has great potential because your stuck in a situation where your waiting for someone else... That's only hurting yourself. And like I said the sooner you realize that the better.
Then there's the different situations with different circumstances... Such as the long distance... Lets say he doesn't want to be in relationship right now because you two are far apart and don't get to see each other. Thats reasonable because long distance relationships are hard. Especially with no face time what so ever. That just makes it even more hard. But some people can make it work. With the time and the effort, and maturity it's possible.
Another situation could be that he's not ready RIGHT NOW to be in a relationship. Which means that in time he'll one day be ready. But who knows when that day may come? So with that being said, it's o.k. to wait... at max I say a year... But if you have the patience to wait longer, that's on you. But after a year if you two aren't officially dating then there's a problem... Either he has some sort of commitment issues or... something. Either way it's not right. But i say at least a year... That's just taking it slow... Be friends. Chill. Kick it. Really get to know one another on a deep level. Build trust, and friendship first then a relationship will follow. Hopefully... Otherwise, after a year of waiting it's probably just best to keep it moving... Find someone else. You do have a life to live that doesn't require you to wait for love from someone who has no intention of giving it to you...
Just be aware of your situation and circumstances, and look out for yourself... Sometimes we choose to not see the obvious things that are right in front of our faces because were so optimistic that things will fall into place. But if the pieces don't fit they can't fall into place now can they?
So i conclude with a quote. "Love is not about how long I can wait for someone, but about how well I understand why I am waiting." Which in other words, have a GOOD reason for waiting...