"I won’t say that hating our bodies is a universal experience, because I know that it’s not, but it is a pretty common one. The problem with a lot of the rhetoric around the whole “love and accept yourself unconditionally” ideology — popular and awesome-feeling though the words may sound — is that it doesn’t leave much space for individual realities, complicated as they are. There are many reasons why loving your body may occasionally be impossible. It happens.Allowing yourself to then feel like crap about your apparent lack of perfect loving joyfulness in your every molecule is self-defeating. I prefer to advocate for acceptance, because acceptance doesn’t place a value — positive or negative — on our bodies, or our bodily parts. Love can be fickle, but acceptance is not. Your body, and all its little idiosyncrasies and annoyances, exists. You cannot blink the frustrating parts away, and you cannot wish them into oblivion. If you are able to change them, it will probably take time. So you may as well accept them, as they are, right now. Acceptance doesn’t mean “I will never change,” it means, “I will roll with whatever changes come,” because bodily changes are inevitable, no matter what you do. I’m fat, and most of the time I love my body. When I don’t, I accept it, and I steadfastly refuse to hate it, because there is no point to hating the awesome vehicle that allows me to interact with and participate in the world. It’s the only one I get. Sure, 24-hour self-love may be the ideal, and we can keep striving for it, but first we must forgive our bodies for not being perfect, and forgive ourselves for any anger or despair we may feel in wanting this to be so. We would do well to remember that in some relationships, forgiveness can be far more powerful than unconditional love. This is true for our bodies too.![]()
"-Anonymous
Here I am complaining about how huge my thighs are, how flabby my arms are, and fat my stomach is. All I could think about was "How am i going to wear a swim suit this year???" *Panic Face* Then I some how came across a blog/tumblr called "Curvy is the new black." (When you get the chance google it.) I saw motivational pictures of "Curvy" women working what they got and they looked great doing it. I also came across the piece at the top. Which added some sunshine to my gloomy day. All of them curves in places models don't even know exist. And of coarse it made me feel better. It made me happy with my body. I'm healthy. I'm curvy. I'm real! And I can't change that. (Despite how hard I may try.) Eating healthy, exercising, dieting. I've tried it all. I've been this way all my life, and i'll end my life the same. But size doesn't matter. The media places so much emphasis on looks, and weight, and has this set idea of what beauty is. When normal people don't look like that they get the feeling of were ugly, and unfit but were not. Were all made to be different. Were not all made to be "Model size." Some of us were blessed with a little more. (Or a lotta more)
"There is more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don’t need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain." -Audrey Hepburn
Humph. I hate guys. Most guys go for your LSLH type chicks. (Light skin, Long hair) Or at least the black guys do. But that's only half the battle. The other half is size. No guy wants to be with a girl whose bigger than him. *Take note of the first picture, "Fat chicks, Fun until your friends find out."*(Which takes me to this side note: some guys like the big girls. But as soon as their friends find out, suddenly they have no interest in us. Because they're too concerned with what everybody else thinks.)(Not just in the size of your waist, but in height as well.) Being tall is just as hard as being thick. Trust me. Because the struggle gets 2x harder when your tall and thick. It's just like can I have at least one thing going for me? But nope. The thing is we just have to embrace who we are and work with what we got. Were given these bodies so we have to learn to care, accept and dress them. Which is a biggie. So many times we don't dress our bodies. Were trying to keep up with trends as opposed to wearing what looks good on us. But in actuality it's possible to do both. You can wear trendy cute clothes that were actually made for your body... It's just that you might have to vary your shopping. Shopping in common stores like forever 21, and Charlotte Russe aren't necessarily the move. Yes, they have cute clothes but those clothes weren't meant to fit everyone. I see so many blogs with girls who are of thick decent and have amazing clothes! I have no clue were it is that they get these clothes but they have them so I know it's possible. Honestly I believe the answer is in online shopping. Which I myself have become a fan of as of lately. I admire these people. They know how to wear trendy clothes, show a little skin but it looks good on them!
WHO SAYS WE CANT WEAR 'KINI'S????
And Just because i'm bold enough, Here's me in my 'Kini top and shorts last summer! Stretch marks, tattoo's and all! *I like to call them my tiger stripes. Simply because it makes me feel strong and fierce like a tiger. In fact, now i have the idea of getting a tattoo of a tiger* (Mind you, this was last summer and the freshmen 15 is starting to catch up to me along with this birth control shot that makes you gain weight so i'm sure you can imagine what's happened to me.)
Sooooooo now after this blog I'm feeling better about myself, and i'm currently determined to get my summer body back... Even though that's probably impossible. But I can probably tone up...
Anyways point of the post is:
